Former reality TV star Vuyokazi Nciweni has bared her soul about the challenges and triumphs of raising her two children on her own. The former *Izingane Zes’thembu* cast member, who shares her children with Mpumelelo Mseleku, son of businessman and polygamist Musa Mseleku, revealed that she receives no support from their father.
Speaking to *Baby Yum Yum*, Nciweni said her parenting journey has been one of resilience, faith, and unwavering family support. “There’s no co-parenting, no allowance, no involvement. It’s just me and my parents raising my kids,” she shared. “Their love gives my kids so much stability.”
Despite the difficulties of being a single mother, Nciweni said she finds comfort in prayer and strength in her tight-knit family, particularly her parents and aunt, who have stepped in to provide love and stability for her children. “Without them, raising two kids on my own would have been almost impossible,” she added.
### Healing After Heartbreak
Vuyokazi’s romantic life has been widely publicized, beginning with her relationship with Mpumelelo Mseleku and later with celebrity chef Xolani Sabelo. Her marriage to Sabelo ended abruptly, followed by public claims that she had “forced” him into marriage. The drama that unfolded online prompted Nciweni to set firm boundaries about love and her family life.
“My kids have nothing to do with my love life, and no man will come near them,” she said. “My parents don’t want any man around my kids unless it’s a husband one day. Last year, I made a bad choice and learned my lesson. My priority is protecting my children.”
The reality star now uses her story to empower other women. Many have reached out to her, saying her courage gave them the strength to leave unhappy relationships. Her message is simple yet powerful: “Don’t stay in relationships that break you mentally. Take your kids and leave.”
### Embracing Transformation
Beyond her emotional growth, Nciweni has also undergone a physical transformation. Earlier this year, she underwent a “mommy makeover” at Mono Cosmetic Clinic, which included a tummy tuck, breast lift, and 360-degree liposuction. Sharing her before-and-after photos on social media, she said the transformation made her feel more confident and aligned with the woman she’s becoming.
Her fans applauded her honesty about cosmetic surgery, praising her for normalizing body transformation after motherhood. “It’s not just about beauty—it’s about reclaiming my confidence,” Nciweni said.
### A Message of Strength and Self-Love
Today, Vuyokazi Nciweni stands as an inspiration to single mothers across South Africa. She has learned to embrace her independence and find joy in motherhood without relying on external validation.
Her journey—marked by heartbreak, healing, and rebirth—reminds others that single motherhood, while challenging, can be empowering when anchored in self-love and family support. “My kids give me the strength to keep going,” she said. “They are my reason, my joy, and my greatest blessing.”
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